5 Mysteries of the Male Brain

By: James Bauer

Couple flirting in front of offices Male and female brains are different. Sometimes very different.

It all comes back to what happens in the womb. Before we’re even born, our brains begin to develop.

During this time, the male brain is powerfully influenced by the presence of testosterone.

Some men end up with a lot of very masculine tendencies, while others have fewer.
Nonetheless, most guys think in fairly predictable ways.

If you’ve spent much time with a man who has a very masculine brain, you’ve likely noticed at least a couple of quirks.

But before I get to those, a word of caution.

While you might think of these as annoyances, it’s important to remember that his brain isn’t built like yours. When a guy exhibits one of these traits, he’s not being stubborn, rude or unsympathetic. He’s just using his brain the way it was made!

That said, here are five mysteries of the male brain that may leave you scratching your head:

He doesn’t notice things. You hang a holiday wreath on the front door. He walks in through that door. You ask him what he thinks of the new wreath and he has to walk back outside to look at it. He didn’t even see it on the way in!

He craves control. Even when you’re just watching TV together, it’s critical that he has possession of the remote. It’s like the experience is diminished if you’re holding it. What’s more, he may end up just flipping through channels in an unending quest to make sure he’s not missing something better.

He’s too solution-oriented. You come home after a hard day at work. He listens to you vent for a bit. Sensing that you’re anxious, but failing to understand that you really just want to share your feelings, he immediately starts trying to “solve the problem.” You want support, but he’s all about finding a solution.

He misses what you just said. You’re the only two people in the room. You say something. He misses it completely, even though he may have nodded or said, “Sure.” His attention was simply somewhere else.

He has a one-track mind. He can be so focused on the computer, the TV or a book that he gets irritated when you try to talk to him. You end up having to interrupt him several times just to be heard. And when you finally get his attention, he’s visibly annoyed.

Some of those scenarios are kind of funny. Some of them are down-right irritating. But I’m not sharing this list with you to pick on men.

Instead, I’m trying to call attention to the fact that men and women are fundamentally different in some ways. And some of those differences are what attract us to one another!

The yin and yang of human gender is what draws us together. When we learn to work with those differences instead of bucking against them, a beautiful balance is created.

Don’t beat your guy over the head for thinking like a man. Yes, he may hog the remote. He may miss something you literally just said. He may even fail to notice the new painting you hung in his apartment as an early Christmas present. But there’s one huge benefit.

If you understand how a man thinks, you can pull on his heartstrings like no other woman in his life.

As a dating and relationship coach, it’s my privilege to share with you one secret of the male mind that can addict him to you forever.

It’s a quirk of the male mind causes him to be obsessed with a particular need. I’m talking about a relationship need that makes him feel like a man. It’s something most men don’t even realize they want.

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Irresistible Confidence

By: James Bauer

A couple enjoying the park together Confidence feels good.

Men will tell you it’s one of the most attractive qualities a woman can possess.

Confidence is King. This is a bold statement, yet it begs the question: Confident about what?

Herein lies the problem. People give useless advice like, “Just be more confident.” What is that even supposed to mean? And how do you do it?

When you understand that confidence is a relative feeling, not a condition, you begin to learn that you can influence your own feelings of confidence.

Learning how to manage your feelings (and the thoughts that drive them) is key.

We are seeking a very specific end result -the feeling of confidence.However, this feeling comes about as the result of the way you perceive yourself, your world, and your goals.

Even though the goal is to increase your feeling of confidence, you cannot consciously control your feelings directly.

Fortunately, you can control your thoughts directly, which means you can use your thoughts to change the way you feel.

Heart shaped candy says, You and Me True confidence means you like who you are, regardless of whether others are impressed with who you’ve chosen to be.

More than anything else in this world, you have power and influence over yourself.How does this power and influence manifest in your thought life? Does your internal dialogue reflect a truly loving embrace of yourself?

If you’re like many other women, the honest answer to this question will be “no.”Your internal critic most likely dominates many of the thoughts you hold about yourself.

But, it doesn’t have to be that way for you.When you think of how you treat yourself, and how you talk to yourself, ask yourself if you would ever treat your best friend that way. If the answer if no, why would you treat yourself that way?

You are your own best friend, or at least you ought to be. Although you have the potential to be your own worst enemy, you must learn to choose not to be. To be successful in building your confidence, I want you to embrace the idea that it is okay to love yourself fiercely!

Loving yourself doesn’t mean you quit work and spend the day eating chocolate.True love embraces the whole person, both in their present form, and their future self.

Really loving yourself could mean taking a break, or it could mean taking a vacation.Really loving yourself could also mean making yourself go to the gym to work out even if you don’t feel like it. It’s about doing what will ultimately build your quality of life.

I challenge you to take a look within and answer this question: Are you loving yourself enough?

My experience has been that people who love themselves feel more confident. When you love yourself, you’re not afraid to see your own faults.Your imperfections don’t cause you to cringe and shut down your own thought processes to avoid the emotional pain of admitting you’re not a perfect person.

When you love yourself, you can see yourself as a whole person, flaws and all, and still fully accept yourself without any need to wear blinders.People who love themselves are generally better at loving others.

Here’s another condition for building confidence: Focus on enjoyment rather than “success.”
Your confidence will grow when you focus more on relationship experiences than on relationship outcomes.

On a first date, your primary concern becomes having fun and making it enjoyable for the other person too.This primary focus replaces the desire to impress the other person.

Wanting to impress the other person has more to do with the future of the relationship than it does the unfolding experience of the date itself.

The more you focus on future outcomes, the less confident you will feel.This is true in any area of life.

The more you focus on things in the future, the less control you have.The less control you have, the more insecure you feel.

To increase feelings of confidence, focus on what’s here and now. Focus on the experience of your interaction with people rather than making the right impression.

Stop and really think about this for a moment.What if you really and truly embrace this idea the next time you interact with a potential partner?Think about how free you would feel if you really let go of any control of future events.

Think about how easy it would be to be spontaneous and let your fun, relaxed side emerge if you really focused on appreciating the relationship interaction for what it is at the present moment.

You can do this!

When you finally get the courage to talk to a man you're interested in, he will feel like the luckiest man in the room. In fact, I'm confident he'll find you irresistible!

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The science of marriage counseling is studied in detail and shows long-lasting positive effects. A good marriage counselor helps the couples to avoid several emotional landmines and control the damage. A successful counselor has a balanced and mature state of mind and disposition.

If you are looking for a good marriage counselor, then you should have some information about the counselor such as whether the first assessment session is free, whether you have to pay after every session, whether the session is suitable for your work schedule as well as information about the duration of each session, qualification of the counselor.

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